Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a response to experiencing or witnessing deeply distressing events, For firefighters, it many come from:

• Repeated exposure to traumatic calls (fires, accidents, medical emergencies, fatalities).

• The constant stress of life-or-death decisions.

• Survivor's guilt or feeling powerless in certain situations.

• Accumulated stress over years of service.

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PTSD is not weakness. It is the brain and body's natural reaction to extraordinary stress.

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SIGNS YOU MAY NOTICE AS A SPOUSE OR LOVED ONE

Every firefighter responds differently, but some common signs of PTSD include:

• Emotional changes: mood swings, irritability, withdrawal, or numbness.

• Sleep issues: nightmares, insomnia, restlessness at night.

• Hypervigilance: being "on edge" or easily startled.

• Avoidance: shutting down conversations about work, avoiding places or activities that trigger memories.

• Behavioral changes: increased drinking, anger outbursts, or pulling away from family.

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HOW TRAUMA AFFECTS FAMILIES

Trauma doesn't just live inside the firefighter. It affects the whole family. You may feel:

• Confused by their changes in behavior.

• Helpless when they push you away.

• Anxious during shifts or when they seem distant.

• Unsure how to talk about what's happening.

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This ripple effect is sometimes called "secondary trauma," and it is very real for spouses, partners, and children.

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HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT WITHOUT CARRYING IT ALONE

1. Recognize The Signs Early

• Awareness is the first step. If you notice changes that concern you, don't ignore them. Gentle acknowledgement can open the door to healing.

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2. Create Safe Conversations

• Avoid judgment or pressure. Instead of asking, "What's wrong with you?" try:

  • "I've noticed you seem quieter lately. Do you want to talk?"

  • "I'm here if you want to share. No pressure."

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3. Encourage, Don't Force

• PTSD can make firefighters resist help. Let them know you'll support them if and when they're ready.

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4. Take Care Of Yourself

• You can't pour from an empty cup. Practice self-care, lean on peer support, or join family groups. Supporting your firefighter starts with protecting your own well-being.

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5. Know When To Reach Out For Help

• If symptoms are severe, ongoing or put your firefighter or family at risk, professional help is critical. Many therapists and counselors specialize in first responder trauma.

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If your firefighter is struggling with PTSD or trauma, it does not mean they are broken and it does not mean your family is alone. Healing is possible. With understanding, compassion, and support, many firefighters and families find strength on the other side of trauma.

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YOU ARE NOT JUST A BYSTANDER. YOU ARE PART OF THEIR RECOVERY TOO & YOU DESERVE SUPPORT AS WELL.